About ten years ago, I stepped foot on a yard. It was a good yard. It was great yard. It had chairs, a fence, some flowers, food, friends, and family. I walked a small path toward an arch. There stood Lilly. Minutes later, Jamie was walking with her dad down an aisle.
I was getting married, ya’ll!
That was ten years ago on April 19. Ten.
A lot has changed and a lot has happened since then; many trips were taken, lessons learned, memories made and shared together. We have a child, for crying out loud. Well, he does most of the crying but still, you get the idea.
Over the years we learned a lot about one another. We learned how to drive each other crazy, make the other laugh, cry, angry, and sometimes a bit uncomfortable in public. The one thing that hasn’t changed is how we feel at the end of the day. Jamie said this and I feel it’s quite right.
We always find a way back to each other.
It really is crazy to me that we really do. I’ve said it before that we are opposites when it comes to certain things. It is very true. There are days when I’m happy and she’s down; other days when I’m down and she’s up.
When I start to think about all those years it blows my mind that we are nowhere near what others would perhaps call perfect. I’m so thankful for that. The thing sparks my interest is we both want to keep working on our relationship. It’s always, always, a work in progress.
I’ve seen a few friends struggle with their relationships and fail. Yeah, it sucks. The thing to remember is that is takes two people to make a relationship work but all it takes is one person to let it fail. We all have our good days and our bad days. It’s who we choose to share them with that can truly make a difference – at least for me it has been.
I can honestly say that I wouldn’t change any of it. Yes, we both had our ups and downs but without those we would not be where we are now. I’ve learned from it all.
The biggest reason is our kiddo. That little pain in the butt and minor headache from having to repeat the same thing thousands of times is all worth it. To see his smile and hear that laugh makes this ten year adventure all the worthwhile and that much more fun. It’s the little trips we often take to the beach, to a park, just the three of us that make me the happiest.
I know that we can achieve two things for him. The first one being a camping trip. He wanted to go camping a few years back but I think either this year or next we can try going to Yosemite and camp for a weekend. And no not “glamping”. Actual, make a tent and use sleeping bags on the ground, camping.
The second being a trip to Hawaii. He’s been fascinated by volcanoes for a long time and will still ask when we are going to Hawaii. I want to make this happen for him. I do. I will. Jamie and I both want to go back since we’ve only been there once. We do talk about it from time to time but it gets put off. Things happen.
As I do begin to truly look at the timeline of our marriage and relationship it is insane only because we have been together for thirteen years.
That’s a lot of time.
That’s a lot of months, weeks, days, hours, and seconds spent together. The super cool part – to me – is that I can still remember our wedding day like it was yesterday. It really was a great day.
I remember that some of the flowers didn’t bloom, I remember that we kept all the presents at her grandfather’s house because we left for Napa shortly after all the people had left. Okay, only like 4 people stayed and helped clean up.
One of the more memorable parts was that our friend Diana was the one who caught the bouquet and is now married. Her and Tony – our long time friend – have been together for almost the same time as we have. We’ve known one another for that long. Crazy!
One other thing that is very memorable is that our “honeymoon” was a quick visit to Napa. All we did was go to a Subway, get a couple of sandwiches, head back to the hotel, and watch something random. I think it was Mythbusters. The next day we went and saw a random movie, walked around downtown for a bit, looked at random thrift shops, and then made our way back home.
We like simplicity a lot of the time.
In a few weeks, it will be the anniversary of how long we’ve been together, a week after my birthday and a few weeks after that, Sal’s birthday.